We’ve all experienced transitions in our lives. The older we become it’s almost inevitable. Common transitions can be moving to a new home, furthering education, shifting careers, becoming a parent, and grieving a loss. Life transitions can be positive or negative depending on your perception. But what exactly are perceptions? They’re the thoughts we’ve interpreted of our experiences and chosen to label accordingly. Like Buddha said, “With our thoughts, we make our world.” Something that all life transitions have in common is the fact that something is changing. Change is inevitable in life. Every blade of grass grows a bit higher every day. It’s the changes in life that we perceive as good are the ones we consider to be positive in life. For example, on your birthday each year, you changed by growing a year older. We find this as positive by celebrating our transition into the next age by eating birthday cake and unwrapping gifts. However, consider the changes in life that we perceive as negative. Maybe taking a financial loss from an investment. Or maybe your partner has filed for divorce. Whether we perceive these transitions as positive or negative isn’t as important. What’s important about life transitions is to accept the changes. Accept them as opportunities to learn more, be more, and love more. If something or someone we loved is lost, it can never be fully replaced, but we can learn from the loss, be a stronger person, and replenish the loss with another while continuing to love. Many times we don’t want to accept the changes of life transitions because we simply don’t feel like it. Emotionally, we feel depressed we lost our pet, or feel angry our child has grown up and moved away. But we cannot live life solely based on how we feel but rather on what we know. Here’s an example, when I was a teenager my parents sold our family home in a small town of 1,800 people to move to a new home in a big city across the country. There would be more opportunities in my life with this transition. However, during that time I felt anxious and angry because I didn’t feel like moving away. I was leaving everything I’d ever known. That inner child in me screamed and threw a tantrum but I knew that if I moved my life would be better. We can’t hide in a hole in the ground and expect life transitions to never happen. Our loved ones can still die while we’re in the hole and we can still go through menopause while in the hole. It’s time to console our inner child who feels so much and tell them it’s okay to feel but that you’ll still need to do what you know is best in life. Sometimes life transitions may feel uncomfortable but with a positive perception and accepting the opportunity to learn more, be more, and love more, they can lead to a better life.
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